Fear is an emotional response to a perceived or actual threat. It is a basic, natural and innate survival mechanism that occurs in response to a specific stimulus, such as pain or the threat of danger. It is related to the specific process that ends in the action of escape or avoidance.
Although fear almost always relates to future events, such as worsening of a situation, or continuation of a situation that is unacceptable, it can also be an instant reaction to something presently happening.
Our bodies react to fear physically, with an extreme rapid heart rate, which in turn increases our blood pressure. Our muscles tighten, pupils dilate (to let more light in) and we sweat. Our senses become heightened. Now we are in what is known as ‘Fight or Flight’ syndrome.
But fear can also be debilitating. It can stop you in your tracks. It can render you speechless and still. Fear is one of the main things that can keep us silent!
- Fear that people will think we asked for it.
- Fear that we will be cast aside by others.
- Fear that our friends and families will reject us.
- Fear that we will be blamed for it happening.
- Fear that we will be thought of as weak.
and although reading this now, you may think it’s a ridiculous idea….
- The very real fear that they may come back and hurt us again!
As adult survivors, fear can virtually throw us back to being the child, or back to the point of being hurt. Fear can be woven right through the legacy of abuse and rape such as the fear about being in a certain space or environment, or being in the company of a particular type of person/s. Smashing through the fear is the only way out and this in itself can be fear inducing.
But hear this… you are not that child anymore. You are not in that situation anymore. You are not alone, there are people that understand, honest.
Send us an email, post a message on the board, pick up the phone… you no longer need to be scared.